After months or years of dating, it’s finally happened – you two have fallen deeply, irrevocably, and sincerely in love. Being in love with the man you want to marry is an exciting, overwhelming feeling that can turn even the most stoic and calm of women into an emotional person who gets teary eyed at wedding dresses and flower arrangements. Once you’re engaged, it’s inevitable that thoughts of wedding ceremonies, receptions, and vows will float into your mind. You have likely had thoughts of your wedding for a while, and you might have some specific images in mind. While you’re working with planners and vendors, you’ll unfortunately deal with domineering people who want to impose their vision or their favorite trend onto your special day. Even worse, you may deal with pressure from family and friends to make things special for them. Shake off all that pressure and do things your way by having wedding invitations that show your true spirit, and the unique love you share with your future husband. Don’t feel as though you’re limited to just a few, pre-selected options that don’t really represent you and your love. With a custom wedding invitation designer (such as Laura K in Toronto) you can come up with something that really makes your guests’ jaw drop. Here are some ideas on how to create an invitation that just screams ‘you’ without giving into external pressure.
Show Your Perspective
We all go through the world with blinkers on, to some degree. We all have a habit of being a little selfish and going through life with our own priorities first. There’s nothing wrong with this habit, but it does mean that we forget about other people to a degree. We don’t always notice that someone has a personality quirk, a favorite memory, an unhappy trigger, or an incredible desire for their dream. There’s a feeling we get when we realize the absolute scope of the world, and that each person is as fully developed as we are, but it’s a rare one. When you design your custom wedding invitation, you’re showing your perspective, your love, and your personality – not anyone else’s. Your mother might still look at you as her little girl, your best friend might have seen a decorative theme that really spoke to her soul, a vendor might want something that looks fantastic in their portfolio, and a distant relative might want something that represents your ancestry or childhood. Don’t feel the need to be polite and entertain their ideas; just remember that you are the individual getting married, not them, and design your wedding invitations accordingly.
Remember the Little Moments
Every couple has their own unique courtship, their own special moment where they fell in love, their own realization that they would end up marrying this person. You might have experienced this on the day you met, or six months into your relationship, or six years. There’s no right time or a ‘schedule’ you have to follow. However, you can incorporate these amazing memories into your wedding and your wedding invitations. Did he propose to you under a clear blue sky without a cloud in sight, surrounded by the golden leaves of autumn? You can take the blue and gold from this vivid memory and incorporate it into your invitations for a stunning effect. Did you two meet in a virtual world, like World of Warcraft or Guild Wars 2? Maybe you first talked to each other on a VOIP client and you fell in love with each other’s personalities without ever glimpsing their face. Some couples choose to have wedding decorations and invitations that wouldn’t look out of place in the halls of Stormwind, the towers of Orgrimmar, the world of Tyria, or the hollowed tree of Agartha. Choose something for your wedding invitations that represents the little moments, not the big trends that are totally separated from your day to day life.
Work as a Team
Some brides take the reins on wedding planning and do everything themselves. They may end up with a beautiful ceremony, but it will never be a perfect reflection of their personality and relationship if they don’t include the groom and his input. A wedding is about the two of you sharing your lives together, so why not have something you’ll both love and remember for the rest of your lives? Include his favorite colours and design tips, but have your influence show through as well. The combination of your input and love will make something beautiful and truly unique. You’ll both be able to look back on your wedding invitations fondly and remember the good times that you had working on them together.
Don’t Get Lost in the Planning
A few brides go so far into the wedding planning and the mystique that surrounds weddings and ceremonies and receptions that they become wholly focused on having a wedding fit for a princess. A wedding fit for royalty is a fantastic one indeed, but it’s not one that shows the true you. Stay grounded throughout the wedding process and don’t go overboard with staying to the images you see in magazines, on televisions, or on the Internet. You’ll inevitably come up with something that is straight out of a fairy tale but has no real personal connection or influence from you or your groom. Wedding invitations that show your true, unique personality are far more beautiful than a trendy, cookie cutter invitation.
When you’re looking to get married, you have a lot on your plate! People will be giving you advice and tips that you may not be interested in hearing. Remember to stay strong and do things your way, not bow down to pressure and give in. You’ll end up with wedding invitations that are unique and true to your spirit if you simply look at things from your perspective, work with your future husband, and stay level headed throughout the wedding planning process. Best of luck!
